The Inner Compass Handbook V2
  • Introduction to Inner Compass Work
  • Details and Examples of Inner Compass Work
  • How you should use this Handbook
  • Part 1: Build your inner compass
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Exercise: “Current Shoulds”

Exercise: “Current Shoulds”

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Phase 1: Uncover what mattersPhase 1: Uncover what matters

Chapter 1: What do you think fulfills you?Chapter 1: What do you think fulfills you?

Chapter 2: What do you think gets in your way?Chapter 2: What do you think gets in your way?

Chapter 3: What do you think intrigues you?Chapter 3: What do you think intrigues you?

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Phase 2: Examine your motivesPhase 2: Examine your motives

Chapter 4: How would achieving your goals really feel?Chapter 4: How would achieving your goals really feel?

Chapter 5: How do your limiting beliefs really impact you?Chapter 5: How do your limiting beliefs really impact you?

Chapter 6: What really underlies your interests?Chapter 6: What really underlies your interests?

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Chapter 7: What truly fulfills you?Chapter 7: What truly fulfills you?

Chapter 8: What truly gets in your way?Chapter 8: What truly gets in your way?

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Exercise: “Current Shoulds”

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When making decisions, we often place more value on the “shoulds” and “supposed tos” we’ve been given than our own desires. Not all “shoulds” are detrimental – in fact, some encode valuable wisdom of others. However, it’s dangerous to blindly accept all “shoulds” as valuable.

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This exercise helps us identify the current “shoulds” in our lives so we can investigate them.

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An example of this exercise at work

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Step 1: Dissecting Time Investment

Enumerate the six primary activities that consumed your time this week, indicating the time devoted to each.

Then, segregate these activities based on whether they were chosen willingly or out of obligation.

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Step 2: Unearthing Underlying Shoulds

For every obligation listed above, articulate in a few sentences the underlying "shoulds" these obligations cater to, beyond your basic needs.

For instance, if you typically spend over 70 hours a week at your investment banking job, apart from the essential needs of earning money and contributing to society, working these extended hours might satisfy additional "shoulds" such as:

  • proving your worth to your team, your manager, and yourself,
  • showing commitment to the company's culture,
  • validating yourself as a high achiever,
  • and maintaining a prestigious job to avoid disappointing your parents.
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