What is a Tenet?
If you search for “Core Values” online today, you’re inundated with bullet-point lists of hundreds of words that are no better than opening a thesaurus. They lack specificity, and are thus not useful. In what context? Is this an end-state to achieve or a mode of behavior? Is this something you want for yourself or for others?
For example, what does it mean to value “intellect” in your life and do something about it? These one words statements can be too abstract for most people to work with. While there’s no perfect solution here as you can always ask for more specificity, we’ve found a few criteria to work well in stating tenets:
- They should describe the process of living a life well-lived, not the steps or outcomes
- They should be stated as short phrases or statements, and lightly expanded upon with more details
- They should illuminate foundational components.
For example, “Risk” is not a value. People may like to take risks for some underlying reason, but “Risk” itself is not enough. If risk taking does feel like a precise thing a person wants to do more of, they should contextualize it: “Risk: because it makes me feel alive and helps me avoid living a constrained life — opening up possibilities, and continually surprising myself.”
We want the output to contain core value clusters, actionable statements (tenets?) specific to the domain in question.
Examples
- Autonomy
- Financial Safety: Taking a path where I know I’ll always unquestionably be able to keep food on the table and a roof over my head
- Financial Flexibility: Being able to live a day to day life where I don’t have to constantly check prices with paranoia to make sure I’m within budget
- In control of my Direction: want to feel like I’m making choices out of my own volition, versus feeling “forced” to. Feeling freedom to walk from
- Love & Care
- Prioritizing Loved ones: Want to feel that I’ve prioritized connecting with loved ones and making room for them in my life
- Warmness in the Everyday: Want to feel more general warmness when going through my day, even when conversing with strangers
- Making a Difference
- Making a world more like one I want to live In: Taking actions that make the world more like one I would want to live in
- Inspiring Pride: Want my work to be something I’ll feel proud looking back on, even if it doesn’t turn out how I hope it will
- Swinging for the fences: I want to be putting my time towards things that are not very bounded in their potential scale of success.
More examples
- Intensity and Vividness
- Creative: I want my daily work to involve a creative component. I don’t want to fall into routine.
- Intense: I want my work to be intense – high highs, low lows, long hours, rich with emotion. But not overbearing! It should have the CAPACITY to be INTENSE, but not DEMAND it of me.
- Purpose in Existence
- Meaningful: I want the mission of the company to be meaningful, more than I want every task I do each day to be meaningful.
- Valuable: I want the output of my work to feel valuable to the users. I want the users to be people I care about.
- Respected: I want to be respected by my peers. The type of respect I want is a quiet kind, where either I am helpful, or I am inspirational. If I am inspirational, it’s because I live according to my values and encourage people to do the same, not because people want to copy my actions.
- Differentiated: I want my work to be something few other people (like me) are doing (in the way that I’m doing). This means the cause is either non-obvious, very difficult, or altruistic.
Todos:
Decide how specific and structured we want Tenets to be.
- [Atomic Habits] James Clear’s Core Values (one-word values)
- [ACT Trainer] Russ Harris’s ACT Values (one-word values with descriptions)
- .. https://brenebrown.com/resources/dare-to-lead-list-of-values/
- [Science of People] Core Values in Different Areas (one-word values across [basic, relationships, work, life])
- Shalom H. Schwartz’s 10 core human values (10 core values grouped in 4 categories)
- Milton Rokeach’s 18 terminal and 18 instrumental values (end-states vs modes of behavior)
- Joe Edelman’s Values Cards (title, “what i look for” and “part of being”)
- Values In Therapy - A Clinician’s Guide to Exploring Values
- stop anchoring on abstract single words
- should be foundational. “Risk” is not a value. People may like to take risks for some underlying reason, but “Risk” itself is not enough. If risk taking does feel like precisely what one is searching for, they should contextualize it with “Risk: because it makes me feel alive and helps me avoid living a constrained life — keeps possibilities open, and I keep surprising myself”
- these reasons provide some foundational values: Open to possibilities, free of limiting beliefs, keeping life surprising
- Should describe the process of living a life well-lived, not the steps or outcomes
- Examples:
- Financial Safety: Taking a path where I know I’ll always unquestionably be able to keep food on the table and a roof over my head
- Financial Flexibility: Being able to live a day to day life where I don’t have to constantly check prices with paranoia to make sure I’m within budget
- Successful Appearance: Want to appear successful to others
- Inspiring Pride: Want my work to be something I’ll feel proud looking back on, even if it doesn’t turn out how I hope it will
- Prioritizing Loved ones: Want to feel that I’ve prioritized connecting with loved ones and making room for them in my life
- Swinging for the fences: I want to be putting my time towards things that are not very bounded in their potential scale of success. (<what is big enough?>)
- Making a world more like one I want to live in: Taking actions that make the world more like one I would want to live in
- proving my worth: wanting success because of what it implies about me
- In control of my direction: want to feel like I’m making choices out of my own volition, versus feeling “forced” to. Feeling freedom to walk from
- Warmness in the everyday: Want to feel more general warmness generally when out and about, conversing with strangers
Our Definition of Tenets:
- Unlike goals, tenets are not objectively attainable.
- Tenets are specific about a domain.
- Tenets are specific about who they apply to (yourself? your community? the world?).
- …
“If you search for ‘Core Values’ online today, you’re inundated with bullet-point lists of hundreds of words that are no better than opening a thesaurus. They lack specificity, and are thus not useful. In what context? Is this an end-state to achieve or a mode of behavior? Is this something you want for yourself or for others?”
"What does it actually mean to value 'intellect?' and do something about it in your life?"
Shitty one-word value: "Risk."
Useful Tenet: "I want to be more open to risk and chance in my career."
Primer exercises:
- Eulogy Exercise: The public narrative about what kind of person you are, rather than individual accomplishments.
- Private Eulogy Exercise: The private narrative…
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